Meeting with Emily
From the first impromptu meeting I had with Emily it was obvious she had a great personality and much to talk about. Learning she was born in 1921, making her 95 years young and born in England. Yes, she was wheel chair bound with arthritic hands but her bright intelligent eyes connected with you in such a profound way.
The words poured out of her as she spoke of her marriage and the role she filled as a housewife turned teacher after her husband died. She loved the obligatory position she was in and had no qualms with raising her daughter and son. She believes in the tradition of marriage but understands the shifting of values in the 21st century. Her idea of marriage comes from the steadfastness of devotion.
Interviewer:What does the meaning of life mean to you now and what it mean to you in your twenties?
Emily: “ Oh its great!. In my twenties I was going through a war. We didn’t know if whether any of the boys that we were in school with would come back. And of course they didn’t come back. Some came back badly hurt. Your ideas of what you wanted to do for life were completely changed because you had to do war work. I was hoping to be an opera singer. That’s what I wanted to be and I ended up gong to teachers college because that is what the thing they were wanting at the time and I couldn’t get to London for my music.
Now … Well I can’t walk. But I have an electric chair. I have a daughter living in Toronto who has a doctorate of Divinity. She did have a church but now she belongs on an executive of the United church. She spends a lot of time away from here. She has been in Israel, Kenya and all over. One son in Sydney, Australia . That’s my family. I’ve accepted the fact that I can’t get out of here. Except with my wheel chair. I see my daughter every three weeks. I can’t say every three weeks .. It might be once a month. Basically I was a member of Saint Marks church . Anglican Church but I found out that all your associates that were there once you come to a place like this. You never see them. Only very occasionally. But that’s not a thing that you think about. I have relatives, well … not relatives really. I have a few second or third cousins in England and friends in England that I keep in touch with by telephone. Other than that I enjoy books and reading and , yes ,I think life is great as far as life is concerned. I could feel sorry for myself but I don’t. I kind of think Thank God I can read . My eyes don’t work together but at least they can work together so I can read. I’ve used glasses all my life and all of a sudden I don’t need to use glasses.
Interviewer: What allows you to be positive in your life instead of being cynical or negative. ?
Emily: What’s the point in being negative. What’s the point in being that. You only get stressful, you get miserable. While you are here, you weren’t sent to to earth to be miserable. You were sent to love.
This is just a small section from the recorded audio I have of Emily. The audio needs to be edited and I am having technical difficulties but once it has been completed I will post the interview.